Lies on an Online Dating Profile

Online dating really should be called “Online meeting” since should things “click” online your actual date is going to happen in the real world. That’s the goal, right? To put up a profile so that you can meet others that you are interested in …they are interested in you….and then you go out on a date, in person, to see what happens next. If this is the goal, let’s talk about what goes through the minds of both men and women when someone lies on their profile.
If you want to stay in the “computer world” forever, just IM’ing or emailing with others, you can lie if you want…who would ever know who you really are? But do know that you’ll be purposefully wasting the time of those whom you chat with and robbing them of time that they could be getting to know someone real.
But if you have a profile on online or are thinking about online dating, let’s talk about what happens if you intentions are to meet people in person….but you lie on your profile.
The main reason that both men and women lie on their online dating profile is to seem “better” than they are. They don’t feel that they are “good enough” to date, so they feel they have to lie to get attention. The most common lie for woman is their weight or description of the “body style” and the most common lie men make is regarding their salary.
Of course, there a countless other things you can lie about as well…height, age, your photo can be you 10 years ago, etc. Let’s discuss….to what end? What goal is someone trying to reach by lying? Lies may certainly get you more views…and if you lie enough you may get more emails from interested singles…If you put up a photo of your cousin who models for a living, you’re probably going to get flooded with interested date seekers….But then what are you going to do?
You know that your lies will come out when you meet someone in person….why do that to yourself or to your date? Many men have told me that throughout their online dating experiences at least 1 time, a woman put up a picture that clearly must not have been of themselves…and that when he met her in person, she was a lot heavier than what she pretended to be and in some cases she didn’t even have the same face…the entire photo was a lie. One guy told me that the girl he was meeting at a restaurant actually sat in her car outside….crying…until he went over to her and she (through her sobs), told him that she was hoping someone would “like her for her” and she was now embarrassed to let him see what she really looked like.
It’s hard to imagine why she would set herself up like that. Why create a lie that can only lead to embarrassment and shock? And this message goes out to both men and women. Woman have told me numerous times that they met a man in person who was 3- 4 inches shorter than he said he was. One woman met a guy at a local bar for a drink, only to then see that he was about 20 years older than his photo, had ½ the amount of hair and was about 40 pounds heavier. What did he really think she was going to say? How did he really think that she would react? It’s hard to even believe that he had the nerve to show up, knowing that she would be shocked and at a loss for words. (She did stay for the drink, purely out of shock and not knowing what the heck to say to him, but told him as the “date” ended that she didn’t feel a “click”).

It’s a shame that some people feel so terrible about themselves that they would perfer to live in a fantasy world online, shocking people in person…then to just accept who they are and know that there is someone out there who will like them for who they are…not who they wished they were.
If your goal is to meet someone in person and see if there’s a connection…to find the person who is right for you….the only road that will lead you to what you want is one of truth.

Are your teeth a bit crooked? Is your hair thinning? Are you not model thin? Do you have adult acne? Are you not really a “freelancer” but actually are in between jobs because you got layed-off? Tell it and show it like it is.

Put up actually photos of you…who you are now. When you write your profile, you do not need to write a list of everything that you feel is wrong with your appearance (We could all write for days if we did that!)…but do be honest. Put you out there….and then the responses that you receive (while they maybe less than if you lied)…. Will be real responses….they will be from singles who are interested in you..
Men: So what if you’re short? Mrs. Right doesn’t care at all…and loves how the jokes In your profile made her smile! Who would you rather meet in person….A beautiful woman who will be shocked when meeting you if you said you were 5’11” but your 5’4”…OR that woman who loved your jokes and knows you’re 5’4”?
Women: So what if you’re heavier than you wish you were? Mr. Right doesn’t care!…He loves that you share the same interests in books and travel destinations! Who would you rather meet in person…A gorgeous guy who will be shocked to seeknows you when he was expecting a 90 lbs. “heroin-look” chick….OR a man who loves what you’re all about and knows what your size is?

Source: Google News